Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Loss ...

November Sky At Dusk, © Joan Z. Rough, 2007

The downside of loss ... we can't let go ... loss of a close relative, loss of time, loss of a job, loss of control. We hang onto yesterday and long for tomorrow. We set rules and regulations within our heads that tell us the way things should be. We only like things a certain way whether it's an arrangement of furniture or someone else's outfit for the day. The world ends if the dinner burns, our flight is canceled or we break a favorite piece of china. We're all losers. We lose something every day. We hang on to everything so tightly that we forget that things change moment by moment and that we will never pass this way again. We're lost.

The Upside of loss ... we can let go. There isn't so much to worry about. We don't have to carry all that "stuff." We feel more spontaneous, can wear the skimpy dress rather than the heavy sweater and long skirt. We laugh more. We cry more. We aren't as tired and sleep better. We have compassion for our neighbors, watch the sunrise, mend the broken china, catch a later plane, breathe more deeply, smell the roses ... experience each day as a new adventure with losses to be mourned, and gains to be proud of. We may still be losers, lost in the woods, but it's much more fun.

4 comments:

deirdre said...

Loss is one of the most difficult situations for me to deal with. Of course, some losses are supposed to be hard, others are just open doors. The trick is in knowing the difference.

I'll be back to read this again when I'm less tired and can really take it in.

Lisa said...

yes, mom... powerful lessons for us nowadays... very beautifully put!

hey, is that a ufo in your photo, or a speck of dust, or a very small, very concentrated cloud? :)

jzr said...

I believe that that is the moon!!

Isabelle said...

Beautiful pictures. (By the way, it's 40 years since our first date, when I was only 17. We've been married for 34 only - a long way to go yet (I hope).)